Uh-Oh! Girl problems ahoy!

[-=Ambush=-]

Awww geeeezee....of course this kind of thing happens to me. So let me explain the situation (it's kind of long..):

So when I first got to college, I met this really cool guy as my roomate. He was a cool, fun guy who happened keep his girlfrind from highschool who came up to Florida (the universiy I'm at) as well. So we hung out a lot, but I happened to join a different fraternity then he did. It wasn't that big a deal at the time, but since he moved into the fraternity in the spring semerser, I've heard neither heid nor hair of him or his girlfriend (Tara) who I met and became really good friends with during the fall semester last year. (Tara is also really hot and in the hottst sorority in school, Zeta Tau Alpha)

So since spring I haven't seen either of them for at least 8-10 months. In that time I lost about 30 pounds and lets just say, "cleaned up" a bit. So now, today, I'm walking back from my class and I see, my ex-roommate at the Swamp! Which is a popular bar in town.

So I say hi, and he invites me in to drink some beer's with him. Of course I agree :) So I talk to him and his 2 friends who were also in the same dorm as me, and I found out that him and Tara broke up abut 2 weeks ago. At that point , aside from the fact that I felt suprised by that, I felt reallly weird. For what reason I didn't realize at the time, but now I know....

You see, since I met and hung out With Tara, I felt this weird feeeling like she had a crush on me. I can't really explain why, but I just felt it; with only a feeling.

So she just "happens" to be at the Swamp with a few of her sorority sisters and says hi to all the guys she knew. She didn't even recognise me as she said hello to her ex-boyfirend, Donnie, and his friends. So when she is about to walk away, I grab her and say. "What!? No love for Donnie's ex-roomate!?"

So she finally recognoises me and freakes out saying that I look so good and that she barely recognised me.

Here is where it gets intresting (yah it was a long back story, my bad :D). She asks me if I have a girlfriend, and since I was about 8 beers deep, I spouted my typical responce to a girl that asks me that question; "Well, no but I'm always looking fo one!" At that point she smiles, and says..."Well would It be weird If I called you sometime and we could get some dinner?" And of couse, again with sheer instinct, I said "No not at all!"

So she said we would give me a call after reaffirming my number and said by to everyone and walked away. After about a few minutes I knew why this was bad. I KNOW donnie still has feelings for her. Hell, I wouldn't be suprised if he still does love her. But I also Know that I have feelings for Tara, and she might have feelings for me . (I say might because, I have this paranoid feeling that she wants to date me to get back at donnie, but I also am one paranoid SOB.)

So my question after all this is, do I go on a date with my hotass ex-roomate's, ex-girlfriend and I hope he gets over her, or do I back off? He's a cool dude, and one of my good freinds, and I don't want to hurt or get in a bad standing with him.

And simply I don't know wither to go out with Tara or not. ANY adive is welcome.

Suggestions?!?!

[Xenocide]

hell yea you do

[enduro]

Wow, you really dug yourself into a pit with this one :D

Well, my personal recommendation would be to let her go, because you can have many girlfriends, but you only have a few friends that stick around after HS. That, and it is a very good possibility that she is trying to make your friend jealous so that she can get back together with him. I'd say that the chances are too great that she'll dump you and you'll lose your friend in the very painful process.

Another way to look at that would be that there aren't many free women after college that are incredibly hot...... so I wouldn't blame you for trying. So it really depends on if you can ever get another date with a good looking girl, or is this your last chance.

[turd]

Do it. They are not together, you had nothing to do with it. If it was your present roommate, brother or best friend I would ask first or give it a quick thought, but the way you discribe it you should be trouble free. Whats going to happen is if you pass you may never get another chance, and she is just gioing to find someone else. Heck, she may never call, have someone else or go back with him, or go with you 3 more guys and then back with him. The thing is just get together if it can happen and enjoy the company. Who knows? Another thing could be she is just lonely and if none of her other male friends(from her exs group), will go out with her, and she lost or left her guy, maybe she just wants some friendship.

[nerdlogic]

Depends on good of friends you are with the ex roomie. If it's not your best friend or good friend, go for it. If he is your bestfriend or good friend... I'd let it go.

[Mr. Chambers]

You need to find out the details of the breakup, if she's just using you to get back at him, I'd pass.

[cack01]

I see four choices here:

1. You can be a gentleman about and talk to your ex-roomate about it.

2. You suspect her of having semi-bad intentions in which she wants to mess with her Ex-boyfriend. Hang out with her alot, and if she mentions him alot then you should back away fast. But during this time that you are "feeling her out", become better friends with her "HOT" sisters so you atleast have a back up plan. Either way you will end up with someone HOT.

3. You can do nothing and mope and gain back the 30 LBS.

4. Fly head first into the relationship. Take her to some dinner get some wine and.... well its hard to explain in a G rated forum. :)

Personally I would go with choice 2, as its a win win situation.

[greenman100]

whoa buddy

ZTA is the hottest sorority? where have I been? delta delta delta or delta gamma?

eh I hate all sorority girls anyway, more or less

moral of the story:

if you're not friends with the guy, date her

but think about what it'd be like ot be in his shoes

[Evnas]

Go for it. Hes your ex-roommate...no male bonding ties there. Havent even seen the guy in a while, so no worries :D

[Krowa 02]

You Can Do It All Night Long

[Cerberus2k7]

I was kinda in the same boat, and i'm a bit pissed off ATM, but you first have to look at the time frame. He did something to p*** her off while you havent even been around them! So yeah, I would talk to the guy first and see -why- he broke up with her. She might have those intentions to get back at him, but she also might have those intentions to cheat. You should at least find out a tad bit about what she's like when she's in a relationship and then based on what you think about her after you find out all the details, make your decision. And if if you can see more cleavage than a plumbers ass, you. don't. want. to. get. involved. It's only going to cause problems when you decide to be posessive later on down the road. And if she drags you to every window showing you all these nice "Clothes" and "Rings", you drop that f***er like a rock. The last thing you need is some money hungry b**** grabbing at your wallet. Especially when your in college. Other than that, Go for it! :attn:

[Overclocker550]

I say have a talk with both of them, find out why they broke and find out if its ok with him to date her, maybe he still wants her back and could resent you for stealing her when he didnt let go. besides looks arent everything, her personality may suck. keep your options open, check out other women, especially the full figured ones :D

[Chaos Snake]

I say your in collage, live it up. The only thing I would do different is, I wouldn't jump into it as if I was looking for a long term relationship.

[Vrykyl]

If you like her and aint bothered about him go for it, if your not that bothered about her but value his friendship then dont. Or flip a coin? j/k ;)