Update from last post -- 20 minutes later.
After realizing that the link posted had over 4 pages of fun reading ahead of me, I tried to make sense of it. I can only truthfully state that I read to Maestro's massive post, and after that started semi-reading (you know, when you only read little snippets of posts, and not every post at that?).
WARNING:: This post contains -- remarks I am well ready to get flamed for, ignorance (with a touch of natural stupididty), severe emotion (note: one should NEVER trust emotion alone!), hopefully some intellect, ect.
1) Why are we "flaming" (which some are IMO) vodka314? His post was short, and to the point. IMO, we are being pathetic right now. If nobody minds, I'll elaborate on my own oppinion on this matter. PLEASE skip to the end of this post if you really don't feel like it. I don't want to have this go on any longer than it has to, and reading this whole post (while explaining my position for asking the final question) will inevtably delay your action by at least a minute. And time is precious in all matters. You have been warned.
His post is simple. "You people are pathetic". It doesn't even include a period for goodness sake! (note: that may be habit of his to not inclue periods on short posts. I know of many who do this, so I could have just "read that in") Afer posting this comment (which IMO is as valuable as ANY comment posted before!), he is then flamed!! (not true flames I must admit. but unwillingness to truly study his, albeit short, argument) Why does he believe we are pathetic??
Since he is posting in this thread, it must have something to do with this issue (or an issue in the thread that was linked to). Look at us. We're bickering over a tiny issue!! (granted, some parts of this issue are FAR from tiny and need to be addressed now.) Bickering (simply for lack of a better word in my limited vocabulary), half-flaming, and posting marathon posts to voice both what we know and believe. Look at me. I'm doing it too! We do all this, and why does he call us pathetic??
It's not the fact that it's a small issue like a name change, and it's not the fact that it's a big issue like who actually has power in this team. Rather, it's the bickering (remember... only using "bickering" because a lack of a word) part. We are arguing when we could be solving these issues!! We proceed to write post upon post, leave this team, and more just because for some reason we aren't adressing (or think that somebody isn't adressing) the issue.
These issues DO need to be adressed. But this is an inappropriate way of addressing them (though IMO, is a great way to release the steam from the friction that is a given from any group of people this size!). We need to stop posting huge threads about WHY WE THINK WE ARE RIGHT, and instead post threads on WHAT WE SHOULD DO, regardless of who IS right! Saying "I was only doing what I thought was right" is (although not counter-productive) not helping the issue. Rather, one should ASK the question "What do you want me to do?".
In health class last week, we were discussing conflict. We went over how people argue, and what techniques are used. Blaming, preaching, avoiding, and placating were all the ways that one argues. However, an argument is useless (for solving the issue) because although it displays all the oppinions and facts, it does not do the single thing that is required to solve a problem. And that is asking.
Again, look at us. We are arguing over this issue. As I said, arguing will bring out all the facts, but cannot solve a problem. In issues such as these, we need to solve the problem. A knowledge of all the facts is good, but you can do that at the SAME TIME as asking the critical question "What do you want?". When somebody asks that question it forces the person who is asked that question to stop and decide (hopefully calmly) what they actually want.
We are pathetic. Rather than trying to SOLVE the issue, we debate ABOUT the issue so that everybody saves themselves (at least partially) from blame. While it is good to save yourself, if we attack the issue right away, we never have to even GET to the point that people are accusing people of doing things. So, although this is a very hard skill to learn (teach says can take a lifetime), you must ask that question before tempers flare (wether or not they are repressed) because somebody is bound to get burnt, and then attempt to burn somebody else so that they aren't the only one in pain.
HOWEVER We can overcome this very quickly by asking the question. Just because we are pathetic now, does not mean we cannot learn from this to get rid of (or at least diminish) our pathetic-ness.
Now, after that WHOLE HUGE post, I will admit that I have just joined into the whole arguing thing I said to stay away from. However, I will now ask the critical question. And I ONLY want constructive answers to this. No matter how wacky, how possibly lethal to the team, how great for the team, ect, I want your suggestions on what to do. We've debated enough. Now is the time to ask:
What do you want?
EDIT: I see we have at least started with this question by creating the poll for team name. This is a great start. Remember to keep asking this untill all issues here are solved. Arguing gets us nowhere until the question is asked.
JigPu