Heres a brief update where I am at.......
Part of my problem was that I had both GPUs connected to the monitor.
Like I said this is my first SLI ever and I was unaware that you only needed to connect 1 GPU (closest to northbridge) to the monitor. Unplugged 1 monitor cable.
I can consistently get both GPUs recognized in device manager appropriately with the Nvidia drivers installing ok..
I can consistently get the SLI enabled machine popup to start.
When I click APPLY on the Nvidia control panel to activate SLI, my screen immediately goes black with a blinking cursor on the top left corner of the monitor. It stays like that for about.....60 seconds or so, and then I get a small red "artifact looking" box on the left upper corner of the monitor and everything freezes. After about 2 minutes I get a BSOD and a reboot, or just an auto reboot.
From then on when I try to load into windows, I get a BSOD that flickers and either I hang, or reboot.
When I remove/clean the drivers/boot into safe-mode everything is good.
Any suggestions? Im close I can feel it.....but something still isnt right and I cannot complete the SLI install.
Is it at all possible that some of this is because my monitor isnt made for SLI or something? It shouldnt be as far as my understanding of the topic goes.....My monitor is a Samsung 226 BW 22 inch. Im not saying its NOT sli enabled, but Im not 100% sure either.
Yes I know.....22 inch is way way way too small for GTS G92s in SLI, but Im going to upgrade the monitor very very soon.
Thanks so far guys