Can't seem to get help from isp or their support. Basically I can't stay connected. When in game if you disconnect..you get a symbol so others know. I get this symbol ever 10-20 seconds for about a second without actually disconnected but eventually I will get booted...
No, it is only this game. I have used WTFast to tell me my connection info and no, there is no latency issues at all. I have 1 hop that drops ~60% of the time, but all hops after it are perfect and both WTFast and my ISP says this is normal and not an issue.
Sorry, if I had known this was limited to a single game and your other access and connecting programs had no issue, I wouldn't have suggested getting a different NIC. With your other reports and connections being solid, this is more of a forwarding map issue with your ISP and the path it's assigning you, which are based on your geographical location and the data route to the destination. You can try setting a different region or connecting to a different server all together for FF14 so that it may not even connect to or send data down that path with the bad node.
I've had this happen with every ISP I've had for a period over 3 years at least once, usually it's caused when they're upgrading an area, a natural disaster, appropriating loads with updated usage data, etc etc etc. depending on, well, everything. I would search for the address of that node, and post as many comments as you can complaining about drops and include your ISP name, do it everywhere you can find, dslreports, speedtest, etc. the more there are complaints of an issue, the sooner they'll notice there is an issue and put in the diagnostic (and subsequent repair) order.
Until then, I'd recommend using your cell phone and tethering (close all programs on your phone, of course don't go downloading a lot, just specifically for this game only, then switch back). 4G networks with Verizon and AT&T have pretty good response times since most of their Cellular Data is linked with their ISP service hubs, so that should bypass it, just don't forget and go watching whole series on Netflix and continue to check periodically with a ping to that hop and with the game.
Sadly, unless you were a business with a "superior" package, there's nothing else to do but wait... or possibly proxy connect if you want to research that (tethering's worth the first shot though). Good luck and let us know if this is suitable for now (and please post the IP of the hop, I'd be happy to post my results if they're crappy, addin' to the cause!)