Don't forget that when you run traffic over a VPN tunnel, that the effective throughput is dropped in half due to the encryption overhead and what not. I would not attempt any VPN WAN solution for high traffic unles it was on a minimum of a buisness class DSL service such as SDSL 1mbps/1mbps. I would attempt to shy away from ADSL as its service is bursty, and you typcially are oversubscribed (in larger cities more so) at the DSLAM. By using SDSL you are most likely going with an ISP that has a better subscription rate, meaning that for every user there is X ammount of bandwidth. Also, SDSL is a lot more similar to a T1, at lower cost. You get a SLA whch dictates the quality of service, ammount of downtime that is acceptable before the line is repaird typically measured in hours, and so on. With ADSL, you get nothing, so your line could be down and out for days before anyone lifted a finger to fix the problem.
As for the dark fiber, ditto on what everyone else is saying. You live in New Jersey, so Verizon should be your local big carrier. Might try contacting their buisness contact.
Besides. Do you really want or have the money for the equipment to use single mode fiber? The end points alone are thousands of dollars. That does not include the tech to bring it onto the premise, the punchdown and termination to the equipment, and so on.