Guys, I receive the motherboard a couple of days ago, finally!
Found it brand new on eBay for $80 from the west coast (I'm east coast). I actually saved $30 for the original one falling through. Got the B450M VDH Pro Max.
I have it physically built, so now just backing up everything on my current desktop to migrate it over after installing windows. I'm ripping the GPU and sound card out of this, so getting all my ducks in a row first. Once I pull it out, I have to install windows and everything as quickly as I can as it's my home office desktop.
Good news!!!
Remember how I asked if an AM3 cooler would work? Well guess what, I grabbed my nuts and said the heck with it I'm going to give it a shot. I went up into the attic where I keep all retail boxes for my goodies, and found my FX-8320 stock cooler still brand new in the retail box. I cleaned off the stock paste on it, and installed with an old tube of MX2. It worked. It clipped right on. It was tight, but it's holding well.
I will know soon if I kill the CPU or not haha. I'm sure it'll be fine. The FX cooler looks way nicer than the stealth. The only thing lacking is the size/depth of the fan, but if that's a problem, I can hack something on there.