Thank you a lot.
Meanwhile i just opened my stuff - I am sooooooo lazy....
Anyway i tried this interesting CTSPD, but complains already when starting 'my memory is wrong'. Maybe has to do with my VMWARE where my windows is 'in quarantaine'; maybe because my board P4S333 is not in the listbox means not supported of the tool.
But looks like I have 'winbond' W942508AH-6,
("My name is Bond, Win Bond")
I coult set it to 2 2 3 7 1 no idea if this is good; with 2 2 3 6 1 and 2 2 2 7 1 booting stopped. What is strange my sandra memory-benchmark is not better than with standard bios settings '2.5 4 4 7 auto'.