my cousin always ran into that problem when he had dial up and would just bring his computer to my house and download the patch here. if you have a friend bring it to his house. although im sure you've already thought of that. =/
maybe too, if you know someone in a dorm, usually they are all connected to the internet through the college connection. during the day, my college's connection blows since they have to share it with the local high school or schools, but at night and early in the morning i think it's amazing.
also, can you download the EQ patches separately ?? i played for about a year but always just automatically downloaded em.