It is in the Everest benchmark suite, its basically a slightly slimmer and more featured Sisoft Sandra, with less benchmarks. That bench is very accurate (cache & mem bench, in everest tools submenu) and runs in 2s. The disk bench is also quite good. The vista sidebar sysmon app is quite good too.
To get your ram higher than 800mhz you must set it that way in bios. Make sure you are using the newest bios for your board first, it's the same as mine and the settings sucked till bios update.
There is a setting in the first bios menu, well several in fact, for memory. You want to change the speed from ddr2-800 to ddr2-1066 in the drop down menu just above the submenu for timings. Is this your ram?
http://www.ocztechnology.com/products/memory/ocz_ddr2_pc2_9600_reaper_hpc_edition
If so you want to set that speed setting to 1066 (fastest default, you will need to increase the fsb while decreasing the CPU, HT, and CPU_NB multi's to keep the other speeds the same), set the timings to 5-5-5-15 everything else use ram SPD default (it shows the detected suggested setting next to the selection box in the bios on my ud4h). Then a little lower on that first o/c bios screen, change the voltage to 2.1v. Once you confirm that is stable with memtest86 or vista load memtest, and the blend Prime 95 torture test (google prime95, install version for your os/32 or 64, run torture test blend mode, set avail ram to like 1/2 your ram, so 2048 for you). My test of stability is if I can pass 2+ runs of the windows boot memtest, and 8+ hours of prime95.
Well u dont need to do an 8hr stability test now, just when you are ready to leave it at a speed. Anyway once you confirm stability at 2.1v 1066mhz 5-5-5-15, reduce the multis for the 3 things I mentioned above, and increase the fsb to 205. Then try 210, and so on and so on, till its not stable anymore. You can safely (and suggestedly) run your HT bus at 2000mhz up from 1800, so keep that in mind when changing multis. CPU_NB can be run at 2000mhz with no hit to stability nor need to change any other voltages, some even 2200-2400, but start with around 2ghz. As fsb changes all those other bus speeds change too. Oh be sure to set the bios on that screen to lock PCIe bus at 100mhz base click too.
That was a lot, get back to us & make sure to read Dolks P2 OC guides, some are stickies, all are in his sig; for some A+ top notch expanded info on the topic! The CPU_NB thing is a whole topic on its own, as clocking it too high or too low can hurt performance. It controls the speed the cores talk and the L3 cache iirc.